Wednesday, May 3, 2017

Five years ago, I learned a terrible secret! My husband was having an affair. I was pregnant with our third child due in five months. I was devastated, angry, bitter, and humbled all at the same time. You see, my husband and I had been having problems in our marriage for years by then. We fought all the time, over money, the kids, his work. I would fight and cuss and yell at him in front of our kids and he would beg and plead for me to stop. I never listened. He stopped asking. Then, one day, when I found out he was having an affair. I knew it was too late. Or, I thought it was too late. But, I'm here to tell you, it's never too late. It's never too late for your marriage. That's what the enemy wants us to believe.

When, I confronted my husband about the affair, he admitted to it and ended the affair. And we both turned to God for guidance, peace, and strength, and the next day we took one step forward.

This event had left both of us exposed, vulnerable, fragile and tired. These past five years has been a long and difficult journey. We sought marriage counseling and it got even uglier and harder and we questioned if it was even worth it. But, I am so thankful for all of it. We have come out on the other side, stronger and more resilient. We can laugh more easier now. Problems that were in the hot zone area before, seem minor now.

When your family goes through the unimaginable there's nothing left but to gather up the pieces and start all over. And sometimes, starting all over, is exactly what you needed. A pause and reset, to be intentional with one another, to learn to listen, to form new habits. And I'm positive that God wanted it this way. He allowed all this to happen so that we could find one another again and to force us to go looking for Him. And let me assure you, we found Him!

Thank you for allowing me to be honest and raw with you, this post was hard for me to write.

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